Empowered parenting is conscious, peaceful parenting embodied. Why? Because without knowledge + safety in our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual bodies we will not be able to consistently show up to give our children the secure-attachment and authenticity they need to grow into healthy, secure and resilient individuals.

Without embodiment, self-connection and access to inner-safety (this takes practice!!), the strategies, scripts and techniques of conscious, peaceful parenting that we love so much will not stick.

Showing up for our children requires us to have a secure-attachment to ourselves. How? We must examine our past and how we feel about it, we make sense of our lives, our attachment styles, our triggers, our (intergenerational) traumas, our limiting beliefs, judgements and fears. We feel these things first, as sensations and emotions.  This creates movement and space to heal and change the narrative.

We do not resist these patterns, but get curious about when they started, why we keep repeating them and curious if they still serve us. We keep showing up with present moment presence to soften and release outdated patterns in order to create new truths and patterns in alignment with our deepest longings as people and as parents.

This is how we write a new a story ourselves and with the following generations.

There is so much hope in this work. It takes courage to examine our past and make sense of our history. We are not defined by it - our history does not have to be our destiny.

We know the dominant paradigm of control and power-over does not work long term - that yelling, shaming, spanking or dismissing our children has negative effects on our children’s brains/bodies, on their social/emotional development, on our families, on ourselves, and our world.

The latest research in neuroscience and brain development offers us evidence to support a new parenting paradigm - one rooted in collaboration, co-creation and consent - rooted in relationship. This is how we raise healthy, resilient kids who feel like they belong to this world.

It is possible to parent without the use of punishments and rewards. It is possible to build a relationship with your children that will help them thrive and widen their window of capacity.

In my somatic-focused parenting course and in my coaching practice, we learn to embody emotional intelligence, making sense of nervous system science and brain science so we can show up for ourselves and our children.

We show up for our children not just physically, but emotionally and relationally. We live our values with imperfect authenticity. We set intentions daily. We reflect daily.

No parent shows up without fault all of the time, but we do commit to the radical self-responsibility and self-awareness it takes to be the parents we want to be, knowing we are the number one factor that will determine the health and resilience of our children.

Do you long to live and parent in truth and trust? Are you tired of the cycles of blame, shame, guilt and power-struggles?

Do you long to have a beautiful, close relationship with your children now and after they are grown?  It is possible.

This work improves the lives of you, your children, your family, your community and the next seven generations.